A few years ago I learned about the law of attraction. I watched The Secret and all sorts of YouTube videos describing how it worked. I also read some articles and blog posts about it. Funny thing is, none of it resonated with me because I later realized most of what I came across was over hyped and sugar coated.
Naturally, people want to hear, read and see what they want. I’ve always been the type that wants the truth, even if it hurts. I’m also the person that likes to tell it how it is, even if it comes off harsh. I’ve always felt that honesty is the best policy.
So right off the bat, law of attraction works but is kind of a catch 22. Anyone who is interested in knowing how it works creates the vibration of lack instantly. This isn’t to say you are doomed to manifest anything in the material world but anytime you want something, you obviously lack it.
Affirmations are good ways to get into a good mood about something. However, they only scratch the surface and only manifest if you are a vibrational match. I think of most affirmations like a phone charger that isn’t connected to a working outlet. Some are too far fetched and won’t convince the subconscious.
You can keep telling yourself you’re going to be a millionaire over and over again until you’re 100 years old but if you can’t convince your subconscious that whatever you want is obtainable and if your core vibration is in the state of lack, it will never be “connected to a working outlet” to manifest.
In my opinion, focusing on trying to manifest anything material, whether it’s a car, house or a new boyfriend/girlfriend directly is the incorrect way to use law of attraction. The ultimate focus should always be on attracting the emotions of joy, happiness and peace directly. To me, this is what makes the charger work. Your emotions in the subconscious have to be the bigger player in the game than anything material.
This has worked for me several times in ways that I didn’t realize until after it happened.
For instance, when I first landed my job in Santa Cruz earlier this year, I was instantly excited about it on the surface. However, subconsciously, I was more nervous and depressed about finding a place to live that wasn’t going to be expensive and trashy. My core vibration (subconscious) started out pretty low and depressing, therefore, I couldn’t find anything.
I ended up alternating between staying at an Airbnb, hotel and sleeping in my jeep until I could find something. I wasn’t too focused on how much money I was making but thought it would be nice to make more money. Because I wasn’t focused on trying to make a lot of money and was subconsciously accepting of that, I ended up making a lot of money within 2 weeks.
Once I started to make a lot of money, I became grateful and felt accepting towards any place. Well, I ended up finding a much nicer place than what I was looking for and got it for a great price. These two things came to me the moment I refocused my emotions towards acceptance and gratitude instead of lack and depression.
After months of experiencing joy, I started to have experiences that lead me to lose that inner sense of joy (which I previously blogged about) and return to feeling depressed in which I ended up losing what I had initially gained. I didn’t realize why it all happened until I came to Sedona and meditated on it.
If I had been able to keep my inner emotion of joy during my uncomfortable experiences by meditating EVERY.DAMN.DAY (which I didn’t), I would still be in Santa Cruz. However, I’m glad everything ended because my self worth was constantly being lit on fire. No thanks. The job got me back on my feet and the place was just an overly nice place to stay temporarily.
Another example, but somewhat shorter, is that I had been feeling lonely for quite some time in the last year. I remember thinking about maybe getting in touch with an ex boyfriend or two, however, I never made the attempts to get in contact with any of them. I kept thinking that I wanted a boyfriend but didn’t want to deal with anyone new and should “rekindle” with someone from the past. It was on my mind a lot but I was also busy with work at the time.
Well, when my job and living situation in Santa Cruz started to collapse, I completely stopped thinking about ex boyfriends and romantic relationships all together. I actually had zero interest in it because I became more focused on trying to get my shit together and plan my move near the university I attend online, which is Arizona State University (ASU).
Not even a week after I leave Santa Cruz and head to Arizona, I start to feel joyful again about my move and end up receiving text messages from 5 of my ex boyfriends. I kid you not, the timing of all 5 scared me. 2 of them were boyfriends from high school that I hadn’t heard from in almost a decade. 1 was an ex from over a decade ago that will reach out once or twice a year to say what’s up, and the last 2 were the exes that I was thinking about rekindling with but didn’t reach out to because I didn’t think they wanted anything to do with me anymore. Well it turns out they both still had romantic feelings for me.
Crazy, right? 5 exes contact me within a week of each other, live in 5 different states now and only 2 of them know of each other. Also the 2 I was actually interested in rekindling with were the 2 who still had feelings for me. What are the chances? I’m pretty sure it was the law of attraction at work because the moment that I started to feel the emotion of joy again and forgetting what I had really wanted months ago, it came in.
However, even though it was really nice to hear from all of them and we’ll continue to keep in touch now, I decided to keep the past in the past, to stay solo and focus primarily on my new path in life…which means using the law of attraction to manifest consistent inner joy from consistent daily meditation. 🙂
Photo: Taken at the Amitabha Stupa and Peace Park in Sedona, Arizona earlier today during my mid afternoon wanderings.