Never Judge a Book by Its Cover… Literally

So there’s this book that I finally decided to check out at the bookstore. This post could be somewhat of a book review. However, I’d like to think of it more as relating with staying open minded and being mindful.

Initially, I didn’t want to pick this book up for some time. Ever since Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck became super successful, all these other self help/personal growth authors started dropping the word “f*ck” into their book titles as well. I guess showing that rebellious side in a book title really does attract people.

Since I really liked Mark Manson’s book, I decided to check out all these other books that dropped “f*ck” into the title. I’m always interested in learning different variations of the same topic.

Well, most of the books I came across were not even as good as Mark’s book. They weren’t bad, but not inspiring like Mark’s book. I read a few chapters from them all to see where they would lead. Unfortunately, a lot exposed their overactive ego in the contents. I ended up closing them and returning them back to the book shelf. From that point, I started to ignore books that had the word “f*ck” in the title.

However, recently I’ve stumbled across a book with “f*ck” in almost the same way as the birthday book I blogged about.

I won’t lie, I rolled my eyes every time I saw this book. However, since I came across it in 3 random places, I felt it was my cue to pick it up. To my surprise, it was actually a really, really good book. It incorporated a lot of creative philosophy to help readers understand the content better. This is something I like to incorporate into many of my blog posts.

Right off the bat, I really liked the acknowledgement and the first chapter. It resonated right away, which is a really good thing and the continuing chapters just kept getting better.

What struck me the most was one particular paragraph in the first chapter. It was about despair that really hit the nail on the head for me. I couldn’t have explained it in a better way. The relief I felt after reading it was very liberating.

The paragraph indicated the constant struggle good people have with trying to experience the joy of life and be compassionate towards others but getting lost in negative patterns as a result of knowing and caring too much.

This explains my situation to a T.

I seem to come off as a negative person to many people. This is because I try to explain the things I’ve learned about life in the most honest way possible. It would be nice if things were all sugar and spice and everything nice but they aren’t. If I could explain things better to where people didn’t get easily offended, I would. However, sometimes you can’t sugar coat explanations without becoming a bit deceiving. And if you direct your explanation to someone who is easily offended, it can come across as negative.

This will in turn backfire as the person who views this as negative can strike back with negativity. It can also bring you down in the process. This is something I experience all the time. I get sucked right back into the “toxic righteousness” instead of just allowing people to express their negativity without getting lost in it. I can forget that I’m trying to be a good person and help. This will lead to me getting frustrated about the fact that too many people are still very unaware and oblivious about the kind of world we live in.

When this happens I go back to meditating. It reminds me that there will always be massive amounts of people in this world who are not yet able to pay attention to the massive amount of disturbances on Earth. It’s not their fault. Not everyone is meant to “wake up”. There are those who are meant to stay blissfully ignorant and I have to accept that.

So in conclusion, even though Mark Manson’s book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, was phenomenal, the book, How to Stay Human in a F*cked-Up World by Tim Desmond, was, in my opinion, better. It resonated with me more and had a more mindfulness approach to the challenges in life we face. But most of all, it reminded me to stay openminded and keep practicing mindfulness.

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Lending Out A Helping Hand

One of the many things I enjoy about traveling is finding different ways to help people make their job less of a stress, even if I’m considered a guest.

I’ve stayed at many different hotels and Airbnb, dined at many different restaurants and enjoyed coffee and wifi at many different coffee shops around the United States. When I go to these places, I always make sure that I leave the place super tidy and clean.

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The Nature of “Luck”

Today and tomorrow, November 26 and November 27, are considered a couple of the luckiest days of 2018.

The way in which the stars and planets are aligned right now and tomorrow is said to bring in luck. But really, what is luck?

Many people feel that “good luck” is when they experience multiple and rare circumstances in a short period of time that are immediately exciting, whether tangible or not, e.g. winning the lottery, everyone wants to be your friend, a stranger bought you dinner, you meet your favorite celebrity, etc. These circumstances have an immediate and, in many times, a very short lived outer appeal and if you aren’t careful, they can backfire on you.

True luck derives from circumstances in the form of either a blessing in disguise or a diamond in the rough. Anything that is of true value comes at a price and not necessarily in a monetary way. If you feel that things should always be handed to you without earning or paying for it, you will not experience true luck. Nothing is ever free and if you are offered anything for “free” you will accept that as an obligation in some energetic way. Also, nothing of true value is ever earned easily.

Since humans have emotions, we are more prone to suffering. That’s kind of our kryptonite, especially if we don’t monitor ourselves daily. Therefore, in order to live a life of pure tranquility, in what Buddhists call “nirvana” we have to dig deep within ourselves to find our own diamond.

The only way to dig deep towards that diamond is to experience outer “luck” in what most people consider “bad luck”. I like to call them adversities.

When adversities in life hit, this is the time when all the disguises/layers that cover your true blessings/internal diamond start to peel away. However, it’s up to you whether you continue to allow the layers to peel, or you keep them where they are, out of fear.

To really allow the layers to peel away, you have to become aware. This means paying attention to when shit happens and observe what’s really going on in the form of luck instead of reacting like an untamed cat on a leash. It can get very uncomfortable but definitely well worth it in the long run, if you learn to respond correctly.

So be aware when the lightning bolt of shit happens strikes. It’s the true luck of opportunity that will start to reveal itself every time you respond correctly. Cheers!

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Photo: Randomly came across my blog stats today and had to chuckle at this as it’s the number that is considered “lucky”.

Stoicism: How to Handle Bad Days Like A Boss

Bad days suck.

We all have them and will continue to have them. Some days are more intense than others. However, if we are prepared, we can handle “bad days” like a boss.

Bad days are days where we perceive, not experience, many things go “wrong”. They have the ability to trigger us in many ways to the point of causing us to completely lose our shit, multiple times, throughout the day.

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